I was hanging out with my best friend when she threw some clothes she didn't want at me and had me try them on. One item was a dress. It wasn't a lame or super fancy dress. It's black with little pin dots on it. I was hesitant, but since she knows me so well, I let her make me try it on.
It fit me well: it flattered my waist and boobs, and I looked cute and curvy.
But I still kinda freaked out. She had to pull the calming, maternal voice out on me. She was soothing, but she also told me to stop whining. It was pretty amusing. I don't let very many friends boss me around like that...
Me: My boobs are huge!
Her: Don't even TRY to complain about that.
Me: But...
Her: Stop that.
Boo hoo, I'm proportional. Life is just SO hard. God, I can be annoying. I if was her, I'd probably want to smack myself.
I like wearing skirts and ethnic dresses, but "white people dresses" are something else; I feel uncomfortable and incongrouous. I don't entirely know why. It feels like foreign territory that I don't belong in. And even if I look good, it feels like I'm trying to be someone else.
Then she said, "Wearing a dress doesn't have to say anything about who you are." I'm still pondering this statement. Perhaps I'm also guilty of binary compartmentalizing.
Am I thinking too much? Am I allowing my perception of myself to limit how I express myself? Or should I stick to what feels comfortable and forget others' opinions?
Self-acceptance. Like communism, it's lovely on paper. And the notion of implementing it sincerely is becoming obsolete.
Oh, she told me I could have the dress if I want. I took it.
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Monday, July 30, 2007
Superiority Complex?
ShaneMo: that's superficial to me
ShaneMo: to dismiss me b/c i don't have a dick, and i have a (great) pair of tits
fbaddict: yeah it is superficial
fbaddict: *sigh* such a bisexual way of thinking
ShaneMo: yes
fbaddict: but it's true
fbaddict: everyone is bisexual anyway
ShaneMo: what makes you say that?
fbaddict: well, how is it possible to be THAT superficial?
fbaddict: it's like saying
fbaddict: "i dont like thick eyebrows"
fbaddict: same thing as "i dont like pussy"
fbaddict: it could be true
fbaddict: but there are always exceptions
ShaneMo: yeah
fbaddict: but deep down?
ShaneMo: we make fun of our fugly stalkers
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: but thats different than just having a body part the same as yours
fbaddict: they are just sexually unattractive. millions of years ago, they wouldnt be able to mate. people like them would just die out
fbaddict: shit...whats the word
fbaddict: *thinks back to grade 11 biology*
fbaddict: i know this, im just tired
ShaneMo: natural selection
fbaddict: YES there you go
fbaddict: lol thank you
ShaneMo: haha
ShaneMo: k, i see what you're saying
ShaneMo: well...what if gayness is considered a weakness in evolution?
ShaneMo: if you're gay, it's harder to make a baby
fbaddict: thats true....ive heard a theory that homosexuality was a evolutionary adaptation
fbaddict: i dont know if i was talking to you about that before?
fbaddict: but apparently it was an adaptation to increasing population growths
ShaneMo: hm, no
fbaddict: to keep the pop. under control
ShaneMo: yah, that makes sense
fbaddict: and my theory is just that everyone is bisex. so we have the ability to make the race continue, or not to
ShaneMo: i wish everyone was openly bisexual
fbaddict: which is why prostates only exist in men
fbaddict: (for anal sex)
fbaddict: i know
ShaneMo: ah, interesting
ShaneMo: i kinda look down on ppl who think they're just one sexuality
ShaneMo: i'm like, "you're one-sided"
fbaddict: yeah me too
fbaddict: fucking monosexuals
ShaneMo: lol!!!
fbaddict: they are superficial
ShaneMo: i like this part of the convo
ShaneMo: "we're better than them!"
fbaddict: haha
ShaneMo: i think there are some ppl who truly are 95-100% straight or gay
ShaneMo: i mean...look at richard simmons
fbaddict: hahahaha
I do agree with my friend in part. In my head, I can't understand disregarding love for someone based on what sex they are. But isn't superficiality a part of sexual attraction? What if a certain sex simply isn't sexually attractive to someone?
ShaneMo: to dismiss me b/c i don't have a dick, and i have a (great) pair of tits
fbaddict: yeah it is superficial
fbaddict: *sigh* such a bisexual way of thinking
ShaneMo: yes
fbaddict: but it's true
fbaddict: everyone is bisexual anyway
ShaneMo: what makes you say that?
fbaddict: well, how is it possible to be THAT superficial?
fbaddict: it's like saying
fbaddict: "i dont like thick eyebrows"
fbaddict: same thing as "i dont like pussy"
fbaddict: it could be true
fbaddict: but there are always exceptions
ShaneMo: yeah
fbaddict: but deep down?
ShaneMo: we make fun of our fugly stalkers
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: but thats different than just having a body part the same as yours
fbaddict: they are just sexually unattractive. millions of years ago, they wouldnt be able to mate. people like them would just die out
fbaddict: shit...whats the word
fbaddict: *thinks back to grade 11 biology*
fbaddict: i know this, im just tired
ShaneMo: natural selection
fbaddict: YES there you go
fbaddict: lol thank you
ShaneMo: haha
ShaneMo: k, i see what you're saying
ShaneMo: well...what if gayness is considered a weakness in evolution?
ShaneMo: if you're gay, it's harder to make a baby
fbaddict: thats true....ive heard a theory that homosexuality was a evolutionary adaptation
fbaddict: i dont know if i was talking to you about that before?
fbaddict: but apparently it was an adaptation to increasing population growths
ShaneMo: hm, no
fbaddict: to keep the pop. under control
ShaneMo: yah, that makes sense
fbaddict: and my theory is just that everyone is bisex. so we have the ability to make the race continue, or not to
ShaneMo: i wish everyone was openly bisexual
fbaddict: which is why prostates only exist in men
fbaddict: (for anal sex)
fbaddict: i know
ShaneMo: ah, interesting
ShaneMo: i kinda look down on ppl who think they're just one sexuality
ShaneMo: i'm like, "you're one-sided"
fbaddict: yeah me too
fbaddict: fucking monosexuals
ShaneMo: lol!!!
fbaddict: they are superficial
ShaneMo: i like this part of the convo
ShaneMo: "we're better than them!"
fbaddict: haha
ShaneMo: i think there are some ppl who truly are 95-100% straight or gay
ShaneMo: i mean...look at richard simmons
fbaddict: hahahaha
I do agree with my friend in part. In my head, I can't understand disregarding love for someone based on what sex they are. But isn't superficiality a part of sexual attraction? What if a certain sex simply isn't sexually attractive to someone?
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Eh?
So, I went to the pharmacy yesterday, and I saw that Ellen has her own line of American Greetings cards. I was in a rush, so I didn't really get to read them, but every one of them has a cartoon Ellen saying something Ellen-like.
I'm reserving judgement. Ellen usually makes me laugh, and I do enjoy her dorky style of dancing. But it was a bit...surprising and weird. It was like an overload of Ellen on a shelf. I suppose she can pull it off...
I'm reserving judgement. Ellen usually makes me laugh, and I do enjoy her dorky style of dancing. But it was a bit...surprising and weird. It was like an overload of Ellen on a shelf. I suppose she can pull it off...
Friday, July 27, 2007
"Fatherhood has turned you into a dithering idiot."
I'm starting to think I have some issues with breeders. Not necessarily straight people, but people who choose to have babies. But most people who have babies happen to be mostly straight people.
Disclaimer: I do have maternal instincts! I smile at cute babies in public (until they start crying). I enjoy playing and bonding with kids at most ages. I understand the joy in caring for and helping youth, and if you created those youth, then that joy must be unimaginable to someone who isn't a parent. Hell, I felt happy when Miranda decided to not abort her child on "Sex and the City." She wanted a child and seemed like a potentially competent parent. (Too bad her son Brady turned out to be a not-so adorable baby).
And it must be special to create another human being with someone you love. I will also admit that I can see myself as a parent. I only get brief flashes of mental images, but I acknowledge that it is a possibility.
However, it's a possibility that I don't want. And I hope that my biological clock doesn't change that. I don't want to give exorbitant amounts of time, money, and energy to another human. It needs to be a completely selfless act, and such an act clashes with several of my goals.
I guess I just question people's motives for having children with quite a bit of cynicism:
I don't like how having children is considered the way to "mature" when people can have children for immature reasons. I'll admit that I look down on the idea of reproducing because it's biologically imprinted in most people and because it's a goal that is reinforced with heterosexist programming. People can be judged for not having children: women can be seen as "barren" and men can be seen as "unwilling to settle down."
I like how it was put in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" by Toula, the main character: "There are three things that every Greek woman must do in life: marry Greek boys, make Greek babies, and feed everyone. " And I like how she explains family occasions:
So, what happens is my dad and uncles, they fight over who gets to eat the lamb brain. And then my aunt Voula forks the eyeball and chases me around with it, try to get me to eat it, 'cause it's gonna make me smart. So, you have two cousins, I have 27 first cousins. Just 27 first cousins alone! And my whole family is big and loud. And everybody is in each other's lives and business. All the time! Like, you never just have a minute alone, just to think, 'Cause we're always together, just eating, eating, eating! The only other people we know are Greeks, 'cause Greeks marry Greeks to breed more Greeks, to be loud breeding Greek eaters.
Furthermore, parents can have such a strong impact on their children. They can teach them bigotry, self-hatred, and dogma. They can project their own emotional baggage onto their offspring. I know that it's a radical, presumptuous, and unrealistic idea, but I do think there should be parenting licenses. If people need to take a class and pass some tests to learn how to drive (so they don't hurt other people on the road), then why shouldn't potential parents prove that they won't endanger their children with destructive ideas and abuse?
Pro-life people want to protect babies who haven't been born yet, but what about protecting babies from parents who could hurt their children in other ways? Some children spend their lives trying to unlearn the crap their parents instilled in them.
I know I'm being very negative and cynical. I know that defining parental fitness would be very hard in America considering all the cultural differences. And I know that such social controls contradict America's ideal of freedom and diversity.
But a girl can dream.
Here's a random bit of a conversation I had with Kelkian:
ShaneMo: the world should be 90% gay and 10% straight
CAGirl: and there should be parenting licenses
CAGirl: haha, you are my people!!!!
ShaneMo: ;-)
CAGirl: "What the world should be" by us
ShaneMo: indeed!
ShaneMo: i'm bi, and i don't get why heterosexual sex is revered as the archetype
ShaneMo: all it does is lead to more babies that most ppl can't take care of or raise properly
CAGirl: I am bi as well...and couldn't agree more! I think that when we are babies we should all be made so that we can not procreate...once we reach a suitable age, and pass the required tests, then the procedure is reversed and we are allowed to have children.
ShaneMo: haha!
CAGirl: :-)
CAGirl: I mean....I am not overly opinionated!
ShaneMo: yeah, i gotcha
ShaneMo: i'm usually not. but every now and then, i just get this wave of disgust for the breeders
CAGirl:haha, ok...I lied i usually am too opinionated....but still very open minded!
ShaneMo: LOL
Disclaimer: I do have maternal instincts! I smile at cute babies in public (until they start crying). I enjoy playing and bonding with kids at most ages. I understand the joy in caring for and helping youth, and if you created those youth, then that joy must be unimaginable to someone who isn't a parent. Hell, I felt happy when Miranda decided to not abort her child on "Sex and the City." She wanted a child and seemed like a potentially competent parent. (Too bad her son Brady turned out to be a not-so adorable baby).
And it must be special to create another human being with someone you love. I will also admit that I can see myself as a parent. I only get brief flashes of mental images, but I acknowledge that it is a possibility.
However, it's a possibility that I don't want. And I hope that my biological clock doesn't change that. I don't want to give exorbitant amounts of time, money, and energy to another human. It needs to be a completely selfless act, and such an act clashes with several of my goals.
I guess I just question people's motives for having children with quite a bit of cynicism:
- The idea of wanting something to care and love for sounds codependent; care and love should first go to oneself.
- The idea of wanting a younger version of yourself sounds egotistical; children are entire other human beings with minds of their own, and they weren't created so they could be fashioned in another's likeness.
- The idea of wanting a child to give you purpose in life sounds pathetic; children shouldn't be used to be lived through vicariously or to fill voids.
- The idea of perpetuating one's blood so one's family can continue to make its mark on the world sounds presumptuous to me; do people stop to think whether their genetic code and values could help the world?
I don't like how having children is considered the way to "mature" when people can have children for immature reasons. I'll admit that I look down on the idea of reproducing because it's biologically imprinted in most people and because it's a goal that is reinforced with heterosexist programming. People can be judged for not having children: women can be seen as "barren" and men can be seen as "unwilling to settle down."
I like how it was put in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" by Toula, the main character: "There are three things that every Greek woman must do in life: marry Greek boys, make Greek babies, and feed everyone. " And I like how she explains family occasions:
So, what happens is my dad and uncles, they fight over who gets to eat the lamb brain. And then my aunt Voula forks the eyeball and chases me around with it, try to get me to eat it, 'cause it's gonna make me smart. So, you have two cousins, I have 27 first cousins. Just 27 first cousins alone! And my whole family is big and loud. And everybody is in each other's lives and business. All the time! Like, you never just have a minute alone, just to think, 'Cause we're always together, just eating, eating, eating! The only other people we know are Greeks, 'cause Greeks marry Greeks to breed more Greeks, to be loud breeding Greek eaters.
Furthermore, parents can have such a strong impact on their children. They can teach them bigotry, self-hatred, and dogma. They can project their own emotional baggage onto their offspring. I know that it's a radical, presumptuous, and unrealistic idea, but I do think there should be parenting licenses. If people need to take a class and pass some tests to learn how to drive (so they don't hurt other people on the road), then why shouldn't potential parents prove that they won't endanger their children with destructive ideas and abuse?
Pro-life people want to protect babies who haven't been born yet, but what about protecting babies from parents who could hurt their children in other ways? Some children spend their lives trying to unlearn the crap their parents instilled in them.
I know I'm being very negative and cynical. I know that defining parental fitness would be very hard in America considering all the cultural differences. And I know that such social controls contradict America's ideal of freedom and diversity.
But a girl can dream.
Here's a random bit of a conversation I had with Kelkian:
ShaneMo: the world should be 90% gay and 10% straight
CAGirl: and there should be parenting licenses
CAGirl: haha, you are my people!!!!
ShaneMo: ;-)
CAGirl: "What the world should be" by us
ShaneMo: indeed!
ShaneMo: i'm bi, and i don't get why heterosexual sex is revered as the archetype
ShaneMo: all it does is lead to more babies that most ppl can't take care of or raise properly
CAGirl: I am bi as well...and couldn't agree more! I think that when we are babies we should all be made so that we can not procreate...once we reach a suitable age, and pass the required tests, then the procedure is reversed and we are allowed to have children.
ShaneMo: haha!
CAGirl: :-)
CAGirl: I mean....I am not overly opinionated!
ShaneMo: yeah, i gotcha
ShaneMo: i'm usually not. but every now and then, i just get this wave of disgust for the breeders
CAGirl:haha, ok...I lied i usually am too opinionated....but still very open minded!
ShaneMo: LOL
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Praise the Army
SloGreenX, Group Sex 4
Kelka are guest podcasting on SloGreenX's show. Slo and Green are interviewing Kelka, and they start talking about embarrassing drunk stories. Elka explains how KC makes a fool of herself while inebriated:
Elka: Basically, like, she gets an attitude with authority figures for NO reason.
Green: That's great.
KC: Yeah, I like to tell cops to fuck off when I'm drunk.
Elka: When they're not even looking at her.
Everyone: [laughing]
Elka: The guy is just sittin' there...
Slo: And you guys drive by or walk by...
KC: Yes, and yell
Slo: She's like, "You fuckin' pig!" [giggles] I can see that.
I'd love to watch a woman in her late twenties/early 30's go up to some random cop and make an ass of herself.
Also, here are my answers to the "Pick a Fuck" questions:
Kit or the Manny: Manny, but if Pam Grier was 25, then I'd pick her
Helena or Cherie: Helena
Jenny or Dana: I hate Jenny, but I'd still rather do her .
Uta or Gabby: Uta
Mark or Tim: Mark, definitely. He's yummy.
Marina or Carmen: Carmen
Alice or Lara: This is TOUGH, but I'd say Alice.
Ivan or Billy: Billy.
Lisa or Boira: In spite of all of Max's flaws and Daniela Sea's shortcomings, I still think she's hot, so I pick Boira.
Octopushead or ezgirl: ezgirl. Octopus head would crush me.
Bette or Shane: They're both equally hot in different ways. Probably Bette.
Joyce or Charlotte: Ugh. Charlotte.
Hot UPS Girl or Hot French Girl: Hot UPS Girl
Green or Slo: Both! Er, I mean, "Nipple cupcakes!"
Kelka are guest podcasting on SloGreenX's show. Slo and Green are interviewing Kelka, and they start talking about embarrassing drunk stories. Elka explains how KC makes a fool of herself while inebriated:
Elka: Basically, like, she gets an attitude with authority figures for NO reason.
Green: That's great.
KC: Yeah, I like to tell cops to fuck off when I'm drunk.
Elka: When they're not even looking at her.
Everyone: [laughing]
Elka: The guy is just sittin' there...
Slo: And you guys drive by or walk by...
KC: Yes, and yell
Slo: She's like, "You fuckin' pig!" [giggles] I can see that.
I'd love to watch a woman in her late twenties/early 30's go up to some random cop and make an ass of herself.
Also, here are my answers to the "Pick a Fuck" questions:
Kit or the Manny: Manny, but if Pam Grier was 25, then I'd pick her
Helena or Cherie: Helena
Jenny or Dana: I hate Jenny, but I'd still rather do her .
Uta or Gabby: Uta
Mark or Tim: Mark, definitely. He's yummy.
Marina or Carmen: Carmen
Alice or Lara: This is TOUGH, but I'd say Alice.
Ivan or Billy: Billy.
Lisa or Boira: In spite of all of Max's flaws and Daniela Sea's shortcomings, I still think she's hot, so I pick Boira.
Octopushead or ezgirl: ezgirl. Octopus head would crush me.
Bette or Shane: They're both equally hot in different ways. Probably Bette.
Joyce or Charlotte: Ugh. Charlotte.
Hot UPS Girl or Hot French Girl: Hot UPS Girl
Green or Slo: Both! Er, I mean, "Nipple cupcakes!"
Monday, July 23, 2007
More Bits
I missed gay blogging!
I had a very long conversation with an alter ego. Here are some moments of amusement and insight:
Re: Girls with internalized homophobia....
ShaneMo: she had her ineternalize homophobia
fbaddict: ha..."eternal" is right
ShaneMo: HAH
ShaneMo: eternalize
fbaddict: internalized eternalized homophobia
ShaneMo: i hereby eternalize my homophobia
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: she would flirt with other people or whatever
fbaddict: or talk about "hot guyzzz!!!"
ShaneMo: three z'?
fbaddict:lol
ShaneMo: definitely a little gay
fbaddict:what?
ShaneMo: "hot guyzzz"="I need to announce my straightness!"="I'm at least bisexual!"
fbaddict: hahaha
A bit of, uh, "internalized gyno-phobia"?....
fbaddict: ugh, i hate girls
ShaneMo: hahaha
fbaddict: they are BITCHES
fbaddict: arent they?
ShaneMo: they definitely can be
fbaddict: and they do this to guys too. poor guys
ShaneMo: hellloo!
fbaddict: I do this to guys
fbaddict: i'm horrible
fbaddict: oh yeah
fbaddict: and..you were mean to your stalker too!
ShaneMo: i have too
ShaneMo: dammnit
fbaddict: we should be nicer
Re: How I finally realized that I'm bi...the hard way...
ShaneMo: when i broke up w/ the ex i told him i want to pursue girls
fbaddict:to hurt him?
ShaneMo: partly to make it easier for us both
ShaneMo: b/c then...i could feel less pain b/c i could comfort myself with the thought that i'm gay
ShaneMo: which isn't true
fbaddict: oh so you thought you were gay?
fbaddict: or wanted to believe you were
ShaneMo: i wanted to believe i was so i could feel indifferent to him, but i wasn't indifferent to him
ShaneMo: and so he wouldn't take it as personally
Women can feel "blue balled" too...
ShaneMo: I was like, "what a bitchface blueballer"
fbaddict: poor men
ShaneMo: yah, i'm kinda glad about not having testosterone in my system
fbaddict: oh god, me too
ShaneMo: or testicles. those are gross.
fbaddict: that would be terrible
fbaddict: why are testicles gross?
ShaneMo: ick. the wang is beautiful
ShaneMo: the balls....eww
fbaddict: haha
ShaneMo: i know a lot of straight girls who feel that way
fbaddict: i know a lot of lesbians that feel that way
ShaneMo: like...who says, "wow, he had a nice, big pair!"?
fbaddict: lmao
ShaneMo: grossss
fbaddict: i guess some are gross... just like some penises are just plain ugly
ShaneMo: lol
fbaddict: lol
ShaneMo: "his penis was butt ugly"
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: ive heard people say that
ShaneMo: hahahah
fbaddict: i have a gay guy friend who always tells me about how hideous his boyfriend's penis is
ShaneMo: lol!
ShaneMo: sounds like love
fbaddict: LOL
I had a very long conversation with an alter ego. Here are some moments of amusement and insight:
Re: Girls with internalized homophobia....
ShaneMo: she had her ineternalize homophobia
fbaddict: ha..."eternal" is right
ShaneMo: HAH
ShaneMo: eternalize
fbaddict: internalized eternalized homophobia
ShaneMo: i hereby eternalize my homophobia
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: she would flirt with other people or whatever
fbaddict: or talk about "hot guyzzz!!!"
ShaneMo: three z'?
fbaddict:lol
ShaneMo: definitely a little gay
fbaddict:what?
ShaneMo: "hot guyzzz"="I need to announce my straightness!"="I'm at least bisexual!"
fbaddict: hahaha
A bit of, uh, "internalized gyno-phobia"?....
fbaddict: ugh, i hate girls
ShaneMo: hahaha
fbaddict: they are BITCHES
fbaddict: arent they?
ShaneMo: they definitely can be
fbaddict: and they do this to guys too. poor guys
ShaneMo: hellloo!
fbaddict: I do this to guys
fbaddict: i'm horrible
fbaddict: oh yeah
fbaddict: and..you were mean to your stalker too!
ShaneMo: i have too
ShaneMo: dammnit
fbaddict: we should be nicer
Re: How I finally realized that I'm bi...the hard way...
ShaneMo: when i broke up w/ the ex i told him i want to pursue girls
fbaddict:to hurt him?
ShaneMo: partly to make it easier for us both
ShaneMo: b/c then...i could feel less pain b/c i could comfort myself with the thought that i'm gay
ShaneMo: which isn't true
fbaddict: oh so you thought you were gay?
fbaddict: or wanted to believe you were
ShaneMo: i wanted to believe i was so i could feel indifferent to him, but i wasn't indifferent to him
ShaneMo: and so he wouldn't take it as personally
Women can feel "blue balled" too...
ShaneMo: I was like, "what a bitchface blueballer"
fbaddict: poor men
ShaneMo: yah, i'm kinda glad about not having testosterone in my system
fbaddict: oh god, me too
ShaneMo: or testicles. those are gross.
fbaddict: that would be terrible
fbaddict: why are testicles gross?
ShaneMo: ick. the wang is beautiful
ShaneMo: the balls....eww
fbaddict: haha
ShaneMo: i know a lot of straight girls who feel that way
fbaddict: i know a lot of lesbians that feel that way
ShaneMo: like...who says, "wow, he had a nice, big pair!"?
fbaddict: lmao
ShaneMo: grossss
fbaddict: i guess some are gross... just like some penises are just plain ugly
ShaneMo: lol
fbaddict: lol
ShaneMo: "his penis was butt ugly"
fbaddict: haha
fbaddict: ive heard people say that
ShaneMo: hahahah
fbaddict: i have a gay guy friend who always tells me about how hideous his boyfriend's penis is
ShaneMo: lol!
ShaneMo: sounds like love
fbaddict: LOL
Sunday, July 22, 2007
And the gay news of the day is...
...I want to find someone to listen to Kelka drunk with me, preferably a non-straight female.
Saturday, July 21, 2007
Friday, July 20, 2007
Mostly Minutiae
- I watched "Bend it Like Beckham" for the second time with a friend. I didn't appreciate the humor as much the first time. And the first time, I thought Keira Knightley was hot. But my friend pointed out that she's attractive until she talks; she has odd teeth. She could stand to gain a few pounds, and watching her dance was not doing it for me. And this was before she started pumping her lips with collagen. My tastes are changing.
- This Sunday, the same friend and I, inspired by "Bend it like Beckham," are going to chill and kick a soccer ball around. She jokingly referred to it as "dyking it out." So if a girl wants to be athletic, it's automatically GAY? How two-dimensional. I know that she knows better, but I still found it unsettling. Why can't people be interested in what they're interested in and not be labeled?
- I don't understand what people of any political party would have against adding LGBT people to the Hate Crimes Bill. Whether you accept them or not, discriminated minorities need protection. What's so complicated about this? I'm not politically savvy, so perhaps I'm missing something.
- I want to get into "Queer as Folk" and watch hot men make out. And I hear the storylines, unlike another certain gay-themed show, are consistently good.
- I don't know how to explain the appeal of two men kissing. It's just hot. End of story.
- Speaking of which, I saw two rather burly men holding hands the other day. It was also hot.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Art Appreciation
I know celebrity worship is lame. But I never quite realized the awesomeness of Leisha Hailey until recently. She exemplifies versatility in every sense of the word: she's a talented actor (at both both comedy and tragedy) and musician. On "The L Word," she always takes a normal, everyday line and delivers it so it's hilarious. Not to mention that in real life she's a lesbian, but on "The L Word," she rather convincingly plays a (pseudo-)bisexual. (Ha. Ha).
I also noticed that she's the most versatile with different looks, whether she changes her hair color or style of clothing. I find that super hot. Katherine Moennig, for example, usually looks strange in a dress. And Jennifer Beals would look odd with boy hair. But Leisha can do it all and always be cute.
She can do pretty long hair, dresses, and eyeshadow:
She can also rock shaggy short hair and boys' clothes:
She even looks cute in crappy clothes and emo glasses:
All in all, she is just yummy:
I also noticed that she's the most versatile with different looks, whether she changes her hair color or style of clothing. I find that super hot. Katherine Moennig, for example, usually looks strange in a dress. And Jennifer Beals would look odd with boy hair. But Leisha can do it all and always be cute.
She can do pretty long hair, dresses, and eyeshadow:
She can also rock shaggy short hair and boys' clothes:
She even looks cute in crappy clothes and emo glasses:
All in all, she is just yummy:
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Cute and Mean, Inc.
The Planet Podcast, Episode 411: Literary License to Kill
KC gives fashion and grooming advice to Leonard and Tina. Forget Janice Dickenson and Simon Cowell. KC should have her own reality show where she sits in a corner and critics everyone's appearances:
KC: Here's a little tip, a fashion advice tip for Leonard..or anyone with pale skin and blonde hair. Don't buy eyeglasses the same color as your hair. Ya look weird. He looks so weird! He looks like he's made out of butter.
I am inclined to agree:
KC then addresses Tina:
KC: Mole removal, it's like an outpatient thing. You go in, they take it off, you're all smoothed over, and you go home the same day; it's no big deal at all.
Elka: You disgust me.
KC: Oh, do I?
Elka: How could you?
KC: I can't stand the moles about her mouth. They bother me.
Elka: That is a terrible thing to say. She's completely adorable; there's nothing wrong with her appearance. And I don't think that she should get mole removal. That's ridiculous.
KC: There's nothing wrong with her appearance, aside from the hideous moles.
Elka: Wha? I have..
KC: No, you don't!
Elka: Not on my face.
KC: Hers protrude like an inch.
Elka: You're horrible.
KC: Okay.
Elka: I can't believe that you're even saying that.
KC: I'm willing to accept that I'm horrible, but I'm honest. It bothers me to look at them. It makes me itchy! Are you being honest that it doesn't bother you?
Elka: First of all, I never noticed anything.
KC: *gasp! They like cast a shadow across her face!
The sheer meanness of this cracked me up; it was bad enough that KC made fun of her moles. But to say that they protrude an inch and cast a shadow is cruel...and hilarious.
KC gives fashion and grooming advice to Leonard and Tina. Forget Janice Dickenson and Simon Cowell. KC should have her own reality show where she sits in a corner and critics everyone's appearances:
KC: Here's a little tip, a fashion advice tip for Leonard..or anyone with pale skin and blonde hair. Don't buy eyeglasses the same color as your hair. Ya look weird. He looks so weird! He looks like he's made out of butter.
I am inclined to agree:
KC then addresses Tina:
KC: Mole removal, it's like an outpatient thing. You go in, they take it off, you're all smoothed over, and you go home the same day; it's no big deal at all.
Elka: You disgust me.
KC: Oh, do I?
Elka: How could you?
KC: I can't stand the moles about her mouth. They bother me.
Elka: That is a terrible thing to say. She's completely adorable; there's nothing wrong with her appearance. And I don't think that she should get mole removal. That's ridiculous.
KC: There's nothing wrong with her appearance, aside from the hideous moles.
Elka: Wha? I have..
KC: No, you don't!
Elka: Not on my face.
KC: Hers protrude like an inch.
Elka: You're horrible.
KC: Okay.
Elka: I can't believe that you're even saying that.
KC: I'm willing to accept that I'm horrible, but I'm honest. It bothers me to look at them. It makes me itchy! Are you being honest that it doesn't bother you?
Elka: First of all, I never noticed anything.
KC: *gasp! They like cast a shadow across her face!
The sheer meanness of this cracked me up; it was bad enough that KC made fun of her moles. But to say that they protrude an inch and cast a shadow is cruel...and hilarious.
Monday, July 16, 2007
Random
I was watching "Transamerica," and as Toby, the unknowing son of Bree, a pre-op MTF, is being driven by Bree, this quote comes out of nowhere:
Toby: Did you know that the Lord of the Rings is gay?
Bree Osbourne: I beg your pardon.
Toby: There's this big, black tower, right? And it points right at this huge burning vagina thing, and it's like the symbol of ultimate evil. And then Sam and Frodo have to go to this cave and deposit their magic ring into this hot, steaming lava pit. Only at the last minute, Frodo can't perform, so Gollum bites of his finger. Gay.
Toby: Did you know that the Lord of the Rings is gay?
Bree Osbourne: I beg your pardon.
Toby: There's this big, black tower, right? And it points right at this huge burning vagina thing, and it's like the symbol of ultimate evil. And then Sam and Frodo have to go to this cave and deposit their magic ring into this hot, steaming lava pit. Only at the last minute, Frodo can't perform, so Gollum bites of his finger. Gay.
Saturday, July 14, 2007
"It's like you put yourself through a strainer and got rid of the boy pulp."
I was discussing transgenderism with a friend. She asserted an opinion that got me thinking: she said that changing one's body via hormones and surgery is as superficial as changing your body to look a certain way via plastic surgery. Gender isn't all of who you are, and you have to accept your body and recognize that who you are on the inside is most important. To her, transgendered people who want to feel whole by changing their bodies are no different than flat-chested women who want to feel whole by getting breast implants.
I see her point: both beauty and gender are social constructs. They are subjective and influenced by the messages we get from our parents, peers, teachers, whatever is on the TV, etc. And the person on the inside does matter the most. As KC commented on Max's (a pre-op FTM) sex scene with Grace (she went down on him and therefore acknowledged his girl parts), it's the person and not the parts.
However, I personally do not know what it feels like to have the strong conviction that I should have a man's body; I don't think anyone who isn't transgendered can really know what that mismatch feels like. I think that if one is willing to take hormones, undergo painful surgeries, potentially be discriminated against (by even homosexuals or one's own family), potentially limit one's sexual partners, face legal issues, etc., then that conviction must be very strong. There's a lot more risk involved in transitioning to the opposite sex than there is in getting breast implants or liposuction.
Furthermore, what exactly is superficial? Isn't wearing make-up and hair products that are tested on animal superficial? (And make-up can significantly change one's appearance; just look at Oprah before and after she wears any). What about wearing clothes made in a third-world country? These actions are superficial, and they have consequences. Plastic surgery follows the same line of thought; it's just more drastic and requires more technology and money. Where does the line the divides "good" superficiality from "bad" superficiality go?
What about how women get rid of their body hair? We shave our legs, do our eyebrows, etc. We change our bodies from their natural state to be what is considered feminine. Compared to plastic surgery, this isn't a very significant change, but if the person on the inside matters, then why shave off body hair at all? Shouldn't breasts and a vagina be enough to declare one's femininity? Apparently it isn't. (I, for one, think everyone should keep all their body hair in check).
What about the pressure on women to be ridiculously thin? Taking dieting and exercising to any extreme constitutes painful, destructive means to a superficial end. And while straight men can develop eating disorders, the fact remains that thinness is a predominately female preoccupation. It doesn't even have to be an eating disorder to be unhealthy: the image of unrealistic thinness can cause varying degrees of unhappiness with oneself.
I think the desire to have one's exterior to reflect one's interior is normal and possibly innate; most people want to feel whole, congruous, and recognized for how they feel. However, how we feel on the inside, how we want to feel on the inside, and how we want to look are all partly influenced by our environment. One can focus too much on the outside and expect the external changes to fix the internal negativity.
I think any sort of plastic surgery should be carefully thought out and all the options should be weighed. It should be a last resort. It is a very significant decision; however, to label any sort of sexual reassignment surgery as superficial would require one to acknowledge the prevalence of superficiality in our everyday lives.
I will end with a quote from "Nip/Tuck" that I think is appropriate: "Don't make the mistake of healing the internal problem with an external fix."
I see her point: both beauty and gender are social constructs. They are subjective and influenced by the messages we get from our parents, peers, teachers, whatever is on the TV, etc. And the person on the inside does matter the most. As KC commented on Max's (a pre-op FTM) sex scene with Grace (she went down on him and therefore acknowledged his girl parts), it's the person and not the parts.
However, I personally do not know what it feels like to have the strong conviction that I should have a man's body; I don't think anyone who isn't transgendered can really know what that mismatch feels like. I think that if one is willing to take hormones, undergo painful surgeries, potentially be discriminated against (by even homosexuals or one's own family), potentially limit one's sexual partners, face legal issues, etc., then that conviction must be very strong. There's a lot more risk involved in transitioning to the opposite sex than there is in getting breast implants or liposuction.
Furthermore, what exactly is superficial? Isn't wearing make-up and hair products that are tested on animal superficial? (And make-up can significantly change one's appearance; just look at Oprah before and after she wears any). What about wearing clothes made in a third-world country? These actions are superficial, and they have consequences. Plastic surgery follows the same line of thought; it's just more drastic and requires more technology and money. Where does the line the divides "good" superficiality from "bad" superficiality go?
What about how women get rid of their body hair? We shave our legs, do our eyebrows, etc. We change our bodies from their natural state to be what is considered feminine. Compared to plastic surgery, this isn't a very significant change, but if the person on the inside matters, then why shave off body hair at all? Shouldn't breasts and a vagina be enough to declare one's femininity? Apparently it isn't. (I, for one, think everyone should keep all their body hair in check).
What about the pressure on women to be ridiculously thin? Taking dieting and exercising to any extreme constitutes painful, destructive means to a superficial end. And while straight men can develop eating disorders, the fact remains that thinness is a predominately female preoccupation. It doesn't even have to be an eating disorder to be unhealthy: the image of unrealistic thinness can cause varying degrees of unhappiness with oneself.
I think the desire to have one's exterior to reflect one's interior is normal and possibly innate; most people want to feel whole, congruous, and recognized for how they feel. However, how we feel on the inside, how we want to feel on the inside, and how we want to look are all partly influenced by our environment. One can focus too much on the outside and expect the external changes to fix the internal negativity.
I think any sort of plastic surgery should be carefully thought out and all the options should be weighed. It should be a last resort. It is a very significant decision; however, to label any sort of sexual reassignment surgery as superficial would require one to acknowledge the prevalence of superficiality in our everyday lives.
I will end with a quote from "Nip/Tuck" that I think is appropriate: "Don't make the mistake of healing the internal problem with an external fix."
Friday, July 13, 2007
Random Bits of Amusing Conversation
RevengeGirl: "queer as folk" never sucked
RevengeGirl: and it has HOT men in it
ShaneMo: lol, i should watch it
ShaneMo: some of whom are gay and some are straight
RevengeGirl: lol yeah
RevengeGirl: the l word doesnt have hot men in it
ShaneMo: true
ShaneMo: there's been like...one
ShaneMo: mark was pretty hot i thought
RevengeGirl: whos mark?
RevengeGirl: oh wait i remember him
RevengeGirl: he was ok...but he was never shirtless or naked
ShaneMo: lol
RevengeGirl: queer as folk has both
ShaneMo: okay straightey
ShaneMo: someone needs a wang fix
RevengeGirl: LOL i know
ShaneMo: luckily things with dicks are easy to access
ShaneMo: um, i mean, men
ShaneMo: brian is hot
ShaneMo: and he looks gay even tho he's not in real life
RevengeGirl: omg i know
RevengeGirl: i think he looks straight
ShaneMo: he seems like such a smug fuck though
RevengeGirl: even on the show he has no gaydar
RevengeGirl: ugh i know, his attitude pisses me off
RevengeGirl: i wouldnt get along with him
ShaneMo: but you'd fuck him!
RevengeGirl: hell yea lol, wouldnt you?
ShaneMo: of course
ShaneMo: justin looks like he's like 5 feet tall tho
ShaneMo: compared to brian
ShaneMo: it's amusing
RevengeGirl: lol they're like shane and paige
ShaneMo: HAH
ShaneMo: you're right
RevengeGirl: lol but brian is big in a hot way
ShaneMo: yes
ShaneMo: paige is big in a scary "i could flatten you" way
RevengeGirl: lol, ew
RevengeGirl: wow, that reminds me of the qaf episode when brian was stroking a cucumber while trying to pick up this guy
ShaneMo: lol!
ShaneMo: was that his gaydar test?
ShaneMo: "let's see if this guy finds my stroking a cucumber to be erotic"
RevengeGirl: hahahaha
RevengeGirl: maybe
ShaneMo: hahaha
ShaneMo: what if i went around in public doing the pussy licking face?
RevengeGirl: LOL
RevengeGirl: that would be interesting
RevengeGirl: you'd get alot of attention from guys too though
ShaneMo: and scare all the straight girls
RevengeGirl: lol that too
RevengeGirl: are you envious of heteros?
ShaneMo: um, a bit. it just seems easier to be straight
RevengeGirl: oh
RevengeGirl:i know a few lesbians and gay guys that absolutely hate straight people
RevengeGirl: but they never admit it
ShaneMo: i don't hate. but i think i'm in a "breeders are annoying!" phase
RevengeGirl: they kinda are
ShaneMo: lol
ShaneMo: we speak the truth
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: pride was funny, there was this straight couple walking and holding hands, and we were all just like OMG LOOK AT THOSE HETEROS!
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: breederssss
ShaneMo: hahahah
ShaneMo: awesome
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: what's at pride stays at pride
ShaneMo: haha!
ShaneMo: rule number 1 "you do NOT talk about pride!"
RevengeGirl: LOL
RevengeGirl: and it has HOT men in it
ShaneMo: lol, i should watch it
ShaneMo: some of whom are gay and some are straight
RevengeGirl: lol yeah
RevengeGirl: the l word doesnt have hot men in it
ShaneMo: true
ShaneMo: there's been like...one
ShaneMo: mark was pretty hot i thought
RevengeGirl: whos mark?
RevengeGirl: oh wait i remember him
RevengeGirl: he was ok...but he was never shirtless or naked
ShaneMo: lol
RevengeGirl: queer as folk has both
ShaneMo: okay straightey
ShaneMo: someone needs a wang fix
RevengeGirl: LOL i know
ShaneMo: luckily things with dicks are easy to access
ShaneMo: um, i mean, men
ShaneMo: brian is hot
ShaneMo: and he looks gay even tho he's not in real life
RevengeGirl: omg i know
RevengeGirl: i think he looks straight
ShaneMo: he seems like such a smug fuck though
RevengeGirl: even on the show he has no gaydar
RevengeGirl: ugh i know, his attitude pisses me off
RevengeGirl: i wouldnt get along with him
ShaneMo: but you'd fuck him!
RevengeGirl: hell yea lol, wouldnt you?
ShaneMo: of course
ShaneMo: justin looks like he's like 5 feet tall tho
ShaneMo: compared to brian
ShaneMo: it's amusing
RevengeGirl: lol they're like shane and paige
ShaneMo: HAH
ShaneMo: you're right
RevengeGirl: lol but brian is big in a hot way
ShaneMo: yes
ShaneMo: paige is big in a scary "i could flatten you" way
RevengeGirl: lol, ew
RevengeGirl: wow, that reminds me of the qaf episode when brian was stroking a cucumber while trying to pick up this guy
ShaneMo: lol!
ShaneMo: was that his gaydar test?
ShaneMo: "let's see if this guy finds my stroking a cucumber to be erotic"
RevengeGirl: hahahaha
RevengeGirl: maybe
ShaneMo: hahaha
ShaneMo: what if i went around in public doing the pussy licking face?
RevengeGirl: LOL
RevengeGirl: that would be interesting
RevengeGirl: you'd get alot of attention from guys too though
ShaneMo: and scare all the straight girls
RevengeGirl: lol that too
RevengeGirl: are you envious of heteros?
ShaneMo: um, a bit. it just seems easier to be straight
RevengeGirl: oh
RevengeGirl:i know a few lesbians and gay guys that absolutely hate straight people
RevengeGirl: but they never admit it
ShaneMo: i don't hate. but i think i'm in a "breeders are annoying!" phase
RevengeGirl: they kinda are
ShaneMo: lol
ShaneMo: we speak the truth
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: pride was funny, there was this straight couple walking and holding hands, and we were all just like OMG LOOK AT THOSE HETEROS!
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: breederssss
ShaneMo: hahahah
ShaneMo: awesome
RevengeGirl: lol
RevengeGirl: what's at pride stays at pride
ShaneMo: haha!
ShaneMo: rule number 1 "you do NOT talk about pride!"
RevengeGirl: LOL
Thursday, July 12, 2007
Laughter is the Only Human Way to Pray
I've had several incidences when people have stared at me for lookin' like a damn fool as I laugh while listening to Kelka's podcast. I'll be on the train or walking around the city, and someone will give me a questioning, amused, or judging look. I usually don't laugh too loud, but it's hard to be expressionless when you listen to them. And I know several other Kelkians have had this happen to them.
Some people will ask me about it. Here's what a recent conversation I had with a middle-aged stranger went like:
Man: What's so funny?
Me: Oh, nothing. I was just listening to a podcast on my iPod...it's like a radio show.
Man: I see. What's it about?
Me: Ummm...nothing?
Man: Nothing?
Me: Well, it's two women who podcast about...TV shows they like, and they sometimes just talk about nothing in particular, and it's really funny.
Man: Well, you were laughing pretty hard there. They must know how to make something out of nothing.
Indeed they do! Whether they know it or not! I didn't see much point in explaining that the podcast is a lesbian couple talking about a lesbian show (and nothing).
I'll end my homage to the Kelkians with some recent blasphemous quotes:
Green [talking to a Jesus doll]: Jesus, should I eat pussy?
Jesus Doll: *nods*
KC: [during her birthday podcast] It's a humongous card, and it's got cupcakes all over it, and it's got a picture of Jesus fucking a unicorn in the neckhole. That's so thoughtful!
Me: Lord Krishna would be great in bed. He seems like the type of god who would fuck your brains out.
Friend: Aw hell yeah. All many-mouthed and shit.
Me: Hah! I didn't even think of that. Damn.
Some people will ask me about it. Here's what a recent conversation I had with a middle-aged stranger went like:
Man: What's so funny?
Me: Oh, nothing. I was just listening to a podcast on my iPod...it's like a radio show.
Man: I see. What's it about?
Me: Ummm...nothing?
Man: Nothing?
Me: Well, it's two women who podcast about...TV shows they like, and they sometimes just talk about nothing in particular, and it's really funny.
Man: Well, you were laughing pretty hard there. They must know how to make something out of nothing.
Indeed they do! Whether they know it or not! I didn't see much point in explaining that the podcast is a lesbian couple talking about a lesbian show (and nothing).
I'll end my homage to the Kelkians with some recent blasphemous quotes:
Green [talking to a Jesus doll]: Jesus, should I eat pussy?
Jesus Doll: *nods*
KC: [during her birthday podcast] It's a humongous card, and it's got cupcakes all over it, and it's got a picture of Jesus fucking a unicorn in the neckhole. That's so thoughtful!
Me: Lord Krishna would be great in bed. He seems like the type of god who would fuck your brains out.
Friend: Aw hell yeah. All many-mouthed and shit.
Me: Hah! I didn't even think of that. Damn.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Gay Shame?
So June was about LGBT pride. Aside from maintaining a queer-themed blog, I'm not one for rainbows or for being too in-your-face. But I think the concept is great. People should feel free to be themselves and celebrate that, especially if they belong to a stereotyped minority. But it also made me think of this conversation:
Jenny: Hi.
Woman: (slurred) Hi. What are you doing here?
Jenny: I'm celebrating Gay Pride, I guess. I don't know.
Woman: You mean... Gay Shame. That's what it really is.
Jenny: Why?
Woman: 'Cause... most of us have more shame than pride.
Jenny: I think that you might be right.
Is the old lady right? Deep down, do we honestly wish we conformed to the hetero norm? Wouldn't our lives theoretically be easier? Is there any part of celebrating Gay Pride that is really a way to mask feeling shame?
I think there's some truth in what the woman said, but it's different for everyone. I know I definitely went through a phase of depressed shame. Now I'm in a phase where I feel this underlying contempt for breeder privileges and how there are just so many of them. I do sometimes wish I was more "normal" still.
But I also think people who don't fit into a certain standard are privileged because they are in a position where they are more likely to question and choose to free themselves from that standard. And fitting in can result in forfeiting a portion of one's individuality. Everything has several pros and cons that are perceived differently by different people.
I would like to someday be 100% okay with myself and not-so aggravated with the prevalence of heterosexuals and bigotry.
And who said life was going to be easy?
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
What Kind of Shape Does the Silence Have?
I'm obsessed with TV and film scenes in which the music perfectly reflects what is happening on screen. The music can express the sentiments of a scene through the lyrics or the way it sounds. Or the music can add irony to a scene; Tarantino is a master at this.
As a TV on DVD junkie, I often use TV as a way to find new music. And I always wonder how they choose the music. Is it before or after the scene? Is the scene filmed according to the beat of a song? Or is that all in the editing?
I was watching bits of episode 305 of "The L Word." Kelka rightfully call it the best episode of season 3. I was watching it and hearing their commentary in my mind. The entire episode is a rush, and it ends with a hot climax when Shane fucks Sherie by the pool. My jaw dropped when I first saw that scene. And the song playing, "I Drive Alone" by Esthero, is 1) a great song and 2) inseparable from that scene both lyrically and musically.
So I felt like compiling a list of other times when the music has complemented a scene on the show. There are times when they've gotten in wrong, but here are some times when I think they got it right (in no particular order):
1) Episode 305: Lifeline As mentioned above, the Esthero song played at the end was perfect: it was both sad and sexy, just like the scene. And some of the lyrics ("Can't move on, but I can't go home; "Gotta find my way back home") express Shane's situation: Sherie broke her heart, she struggles with unlearning her infidelity, and her whole character has been concerned with the idea of having a home and a family. It's like the song was written for this scene.
2) Episode 303: Lobsters During the dinner where the gals welcome home Jenny, there were several socially aggravating moments: Alice and Dana were making passive aggressive remarks to each other, TiBette were fighting over money, and everyone was subtly rude to Moira because 1) she was awkward, 2) she was wearing flannel, 3) and they felt their territory was being invaded by a foreigner. It was a painful scene to watch, and the acting really captured the tense, awkward undertones. The song that started playing when the food was brought out ("Todd's Journey in Temporal Space" by Sinewave) reflected the exoticness of the food. I wish I could articulate how. The song slowly built up as Moira told her story. When the girls started turning their heads and glaring at her, they were in sync with the song. And towards the end of the song, the camera zooms in on Moira and the alienated look on her face. The song's ominous and anxious sound is appropriate.
3) Episode 404: Layup When Shane is modeling in "boys' panties," they play "Boys Wanna Be Her" by Peaches. I can't think of anyone else to whom the lyrics would apply better: what other woman would both boys and girls want to be? Shane/Kate Moennig epitomizes cool, and she gets the ladies. Okay, maybe gay girls want to be her, and straight boys want to be her. Shane, however, doesn't want to be any sort of model.
3) Episode 202: Lapdance Tina is getting a lapdance. The song that is playing, "Ilya" by Martina Topley-Bird, is sad and erotic. And you can tell that Tina doesn't exactly feel cheered up by having some random topless woman in her face because she's depressed over her break up with Bette. And the lyrics "You know we belong together" express that. What can I say? I'm for TiBette getting back together.
4) Episode 103: Longing During the opening scene, a fictitious photographer, Carla Marie Freed, is photographing a nude woman. The instrumental song ("Borrito" by Fundamental) has a prominent drum beat that's eventually interspersed with a beautiful twitter of the guitar. The song sounds like a revelation as is the scene in which the artist is producing her work; as the song plays, the camera slowly glides along the model's body as if it's exploring her.
5) Episode 307: Lone Star Max and Billy are talking. Billy is talking to Max like he's a real man; he asks Max if he has a hard on that won't go down because of the testosterone. Billy tells Max about his lover who died, and then they fuck. The song ("Yflmd" by Giant Drag) works well because of the guitar. To me, electric guitars usually signify testosterone. And I happened to think that scene was hot. I agree with Elka: Max is hotter as a trannyfag. And I think Daniela Sea is more attractive when she doesn't talk much.
6) Episode 206: Lagrimas de Oro Shane is at home, the doorbell rings, she opens the door, and Hot UPS Girl is there. Shane is looking super sexy in her tank top, and Hot UPS Girl starts flirting. Within a few minutes, they're going at it. If only real life was like this. "Playgirl" by Ladytron is playing. I happen to love Ladytron. And Shane is a playgirl who chokes on cigarettes, so that's why I put this song on this list.
7) Episode 113: Limb From Limb In the opening scene, Bette' pulls into the parking lot to get to work, and then she sees Candace drive in. "Roads" by Portishead plays. I think the sadness of the song is appropriate; Bette knows the gravity of her decision and how wrong it is. I was yelling at the screen during this scene. And while she finds release, she also carries the burden of hurting Tina and their relationship.
8) Episode 101: The Pilot TiBette are having sex, and it's back in the day when they were happy. I think it's one of the hottest sex scenes on the show. "Up in the Room" by Mr. Airplane Man is playing. The beat and tempo of the song matches what they're doing, and I think the singer's voice is pretty sexy.
I'm sure there are other examples, but these are the ones that struck me personally.
As a TV on DVD junkie, I often use TV as a way to find new music. And I always wonder how they choose the music. Is it before or after the scene? Is the scene filmed according to the beat of a song? Or is that all in the editing?
I was watching bits of episode 305 of "The L Word." Kelka rightfully call it the best episode of season 3. I was watching it and hearing their commentary in my mind. The entire episode is a rush, and it ends with a hot climax when Shane fucks Sherie by the pool. My jaw dropped when I first saw that scene. And the song playing, "I Drive Alone" by Esthero, is 1) a great song and 2) inseparable from that scene both lyrically and musically.
So I felt like compiling a list of other times when the music has complemented a scene on the show. There are times when they've gotten in wrong, but here are some times when I think they got it right (in no particular order):
1) Episode 305: Lifeline As mentioned above, the Esthero song played at the end was perfect: it was both sad and sexy, just like the scene. And some of the lyrics ("Can't move on, but I can't go home; "Gotta find my way back home") express Shane's situation: Sherie broke her heart, she struggles with unlearning her infidelity, and her whole character has been concerned with the idea of having a home and a family. It's like the song was written for this scene.
2) Episode 303: Lobsters During the dinner where the gals welcome home Jenny, there were several socially aggravating moments: Alice and Dana were making passive aggressive remarks to each other, TiBette were fighting over money, and everyone was subtly rude to Moira because 1) she was awkward, 2) she was wearing flannel, 3) and they felt their territory was being invaded by a foreigner. It was a painful scene to watch, and the acting really captured the tense, awkward undertones. The song that started playing when the food was brought out ("Todd's Journey in Temporal Space" by Sinewave) reflected the exoticness of the food. I wish I could articulate how. The song slowly built up as Moira told her story. When the girls started turning their heads and glaring at her, they were in sync with the song. And towards the end of the song, the camera zooms in on Moira and the alienated look on her face. The song's ominous and anxious sound is appropriate.
3) Episode 404: Layup When Shane is modeling in "boys' panties," they play "Boys Wanna Be Her" by Peaches. I can't think of anyone else to whom the lyrics would apply better: what other woman would both boys and girls want to be? Shane/Kate Moennig epitomizes cool, and she gets the ladies. Okay, maybe gay girls want to be her, and straight boys want to be her. Shane, however, doesn't want to be any sort of model.
3) Episode 202: Lapdance Tina is getting a lapdance. The song that is playing, "Ilya" by Martina Topley-Bird, is sad and erotic. And you can tell that Tina doesn't exactly feel cheered up by having some random topless woman in her face because she's depressed over her break up with Bette. And the lyrics "You know we belong together" express that. What can I say? I'm for TiBette getting back together.
4) Episode 103: Longing During the opening scene, a fictitious photographer, Carla Marie Freed, is photographing a nude woman. The instrumental song ("Borrito" by Fundamental) has a prominent drum beat that's eventually interspersed with a beautiful twitter of the guitar. The song sounds like a revelation as is the scene in which the artist is producing her work; as the song plays, the camera slowly glides along the model's body as if it's exploring her.
5) Episode 307: Lone Star Max and Billy are talking. Billy is talking to Max like he's a real man; he asks Max if he has a hard on that won't go down because of the testosterone. Billy tells Max about his lover who died, and then they fuck. The song ("Yflmd" by Giant Drag) works well because of the guitar. To me, electric guitars usually signify testosterone. And I happened to think that scene was hot. I agree with Elka: Max is hotter as a trannyfag. And I think Daniela Sea is more attractive when she doesn't talk much.
6) Episode 206: Lagrimas de Oro Shane is at home, the doorbell rings, she opens the door, and Hot UPS Girl is there. Shane is looking super sexy in her tank top, and Hot UPS Girl starts flirting. Within a few minutes, they're going at it. If only real life was like this. "Playgirl" by Ladytron is playing. I happen to love Ladytron. And Shane is a playgirl who chokes on cigarettes, so that's why I put this song on this list.
7) Episode 113: Limb From Limb In the opening scene, Bette' pulls into the parking lot to get to work, and then she sees Candace drive in. "Roads" by Portishead plays. I think the sadness of the song is appropriate; Bette knows the gravity of her decision and how wrong it is. I was yelling at the screen during this scene. And while she finds release, she also carries the burden of hurting Tina and their relationship.
8) Episode 101: The Pilot TiBette are having sex, and it's back in the day when they were happy. I think it's one of the hottest sex scenes on the show. "Up in the Room" by Mr. Airplane Man is playing. The beat and tempo of the song matches what they're doing, and I think the singer's voice is pretty sexy.
I'm sure there are other examples, but these are the ones that struck me personally.
Sunday, July 8, 2007
Things to Come
I am hoping to find the time to blog about the following topics within the next week or so:
In other news, Kelka posted a podcast! Yaaay! It's short, but with my withdrawal, I'll take what I can get.
Also, in this post, I mentioned having several "not real" crushes. I want to add Zadie Smith to the list. I'm currently reading The Autograph Man. Her writing style rocks my face off; she's amazing at getting inside a character's head while still being hilarious. And she's half Jamaican and half English. How could I not have a literary crush on her?
Happy Sunday!
- The possible connection between homosexuality and eating disorders
- Is it superficial for transgendered individuals to change their bodies via hormones and surgery?
- Some times when "The L Word" got the music right
In other news, Kelka posted a podcast! Yaaay! It's short, but with my withdrawal, I'll take what I can get.
Also, in this post, I mentioned having several "not real" crushes. I want to add Zadie Smith to the list. I'm currently reading The Autograph Man. Her writing style rocks my face off; she's amazing at getting inside a character's head while still being hilarious. And she's half Jamaican and half English. How could I not have a literary crush on her?
Happy Sunday!
Saturday, July 7, 2007
Back to Kelka
The Planet Podcast, Episode 403: Lassoed
Kelka are drunk, and it's GREAT. They're discussing the scene in which Max tells a ridiculous lie to avoid going in the pool. KC pulls a "Marco Polo" on Elka and makes a hilarious observation:
KC: Why didn't he just get in the pool?
Elka: Because he has boobs!
KC: I don't understand. Why didn't he just get in the pool?
Elka: [briefly pauses, takes in some air] Because he's a dude, and dudes don't usually fill out a bikini.
KC: You think he's wearing a bikini.
Elka: [irritated] No, I think his breasts are bound.
KC: [cackles]
Elka: [shouting, realizing she's been played] WOULD YOU STOP DOING THIS TO ME!?
KC: Okay, the whole show was awesome, except for this one line that they miswrote. And maybe they didn't miswrite it; maybe Max, or Daniela, is just used to playing Max. But he goes, "I have an ear condition; you know what I mean?" NO, I don't know what you mean? An ear condition?? [laughs]
Elka: "I have this ear problem, you know." Noo, I don't know! What is this ear problem of which you speak?
KC: And what does this make you swat my hand away when I try to unbutton your shirt. [imitates and exaggerates Max's feelings in a self-righteous, defiant tone] "I have an ear condition!!"
Elka: "Don't touch my nipples! My ear my get infected!"
I think Daniela Sea is hot. I thoroughly enjoyed watching her dance in a suit at the end of episode 304. But the second she opens her mouth, she ruins it. She's not an actor, and she was clearly picked because she looks the part and because she's dating Bitch. She needs to stop saying "you know" at the end of all her sentences.
Kelka are drunk, and it's GREAT. They're discussing the scene in which Max tells a ridiculous lie to avoid going in the pool. KC pulls a "Marco Polo" on Elka and makes a hilarious observation:
KC: Why didn't he just get in the pool?
Elka: Because he has boobs!
KC: I don't understand. Why didn't he just get in the pool?
Elka: [briefly pauses, takes in some air] Because he's a dude, and dudes don't usually fill out a bikini.
KC: You think he's wearing a bikini.
Elka: [irritated] No, I think his breasts are bound.
KC: [cackles]
Elka: [shouting, realizing she's been played] WOULD YOU STOP DOING THIS TO ME!?
KC: Okay, the whole show was awesome, except for this one line that they miswrote. And maybe they didn't miswrite it; maybe Max, or Daniela, is just used to playing Max. But he goes, "I have an ear condition; you know what I mean?" NO, I don't know what you mean? An ear condition?? [laughs]
Elka: "I have this ear problem, you know." Noo, I don't know! What is this ear problem of which you speak?
KC: And what does this make you swat my hand away when I try to unbutton your shirt. [imitates and exaggerates Max's feelings in a self-righteous, defiant tone] "I have an ear condition!!"
Elka: "Don't touch my nipples! My ear my get infected!"
I think Daniela Sea is hot. I thoroughly enjoyed watching her dance in a suit at the end of episode 304. But the second she opens her mouth, she ruins it. She's not an actor, and she was clearly picked because she looks the part and because she's dating Bitch. She needs to stop saying "you know" at the end of all her sentences.
Friday, July 6, 2007
"Gay girls luuv cats. That is SO gay!"
I realized that I need my "gay fix" on an almost daily basis: I need to check SloGreenX's blog, I need to listen to some Kelka, I need to maintain this blog, etc. If I don't, then I feel off center and like everyone else in the world is straight. Right now I have two queer friends that I hang out with in person. I'm working on increasing that number; I don't exactly have a shortage of het friends. I know there's a lot more to a person than their sexual orientation, but I just want a balance of friends to express all facets of myself with.
In an attempt to get a free, convenient "gay fix," I watched "Mulholland Drive." And, being the idiot that I can be, I confused David Lynch (the director of "Mulholland Drive" with David Fincher (the director of "Fight Club"), so I expected it to be good. The plot mostly confused me, and I might have been willing to watch it again if the lesbian storyline wasn't aggravating. It came out of nowhere, and it wasn't very believable. But it still made me want to cry (gay woman falls for straight woman who messed around with her and then flaunts her heterosexuality in gay woman's face).
A few days later, I saw "But I'm a Cheerleader." This is an awesome film! It's hilarious, realistic, and sweet. And Clea DuVall is totally growing on me; she looked pretty yummy in that black, collared shirt (this sentence is responsible for the "I'm SO queer tag" for this post).
In an attempt to get a free, convenient "gay fix," I watched "Mulholland Drive." And, being the idiot that I can be, I confused David Lynch (the director of "Mulholland Drive" with David Fincher (the director of "Fight Club"), so I expected it to be good. The plot mostly confused me, and I might have been willing to watch it again if the lesbian storyline wasn't aggravating. It came out of nowhere, and it wasn't very believable. But it still made me want to cry (gay woman falls for straight woman who messed around with her and then flaunts her heterosexuality in gay woman's face).
A few days later, I saw "But I'm a Cheerleader." This is an awesome film! It's hilarious, realistic, and sweet. And Clea DuVall is totally growing on me; she looked pretty yummy in that black, collared shirt (this sentence is responsible for the "I'm SO queer tag" for this post).
Thursday, July 5, 2007
"Discuss!"
So I was talking to my friend who also identifies as bi, but she's probably like 75% straight. She had some thoughts that I don't really want to explore, but I figured I'd just put them out there:
blueyedju: dude if i could find any girl who was not either a lifestyle dyke who wanted me for a gf or a little bi-curious airhead
blueyedju: ...well i don't know how to finish that sentence
ShaneMo: lol!!
blueyedju: girls are easy. it's defining who you are with them that's tough.
blueyedju: we have no paradigm to follow
blueyedju: nobody taught us how to love women
blueyedju: we were bred to hate each other
ShaneMo: hmmm, i think guys are easier...usually less maintenance.
ShaneMo: but yes, we are bred to hate girls
blueyedju: that's why the best xx/xx relationships most of us encounter are love/hate
blueyedju: as with our mothers
ShaneMo: oh dear
blueyedju: am i wrong?
blueyedju: dude if i could find any girl who was not either a lifestyle dyke who wanted me for a gf or a little bi-curious airhead
blueyedju: ...well i don't know how to finish that sentence
ShaneMo: lol!!
blueyedju: girls are easy. it's defining who you are with them that's tough.
blueyedju: we have no paradigm to follow
blueyedju: nobody taught us how to love women
blueyedju: we were bred to hate each other
ShaneMo: hmmm, i think guys are easier...usually less maintenance.
ShaneMo: but yes, we are bred to hate girls
blueyedju: that's why the best xx/xx relationships most of us encounter are love/hate
blueyedju: as with our mothers
ShaneMo: oh dear
blueyedju: am i wrong?
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
TV Potpourri
- I complain more about being bi than I praise it. But one advantage to it is that I can relate to a wider range of people. I can do girl talk about boys, girl talk about girls, boy talk about girls, etc. It's kind of like being someone who has watched both "Friends" and "Seinfeld." I'm generalizing, but the type of people who like the humor in "Friends" are usually different from the type of people who like the humor in "Seinfeld." I appreciate both (but "Seinfeld" is classic comic genius, and I don't always openly admit to have watched several episodes of "Friends").
- I never thought I'd say this, but I think, in some ways, season 3 is better than season 4 of "The L Word." They may have fucked up royally with Dana, and they may have broken our hearts, but at least we cared. Some of us cared about Dana, TiBette's problems, Shane's infidelity, Alice's craziness, etc. In season 4, I didn't give a shit about Papi, Catherine and Helena, Kit and Angus, Bette and Jodi, Shane and Paige, etc. I only really cared about Alice, Bette, and Shane's happiness, and that's because they are what's left of what represents "the good old days."
- So I finished all of "Sex and the City." I plowed through the entire series, and it was great. The way they gave Samantha breast cancer was interesting. I think it was good for her because it got her to slow down with her hedonistic ways, and it made her more vulnerable. The show obviously took a more humorous and realistic spin on it than "The L Word" did. At least Samantha getting breast cancer was more realistic since she's an older woman (although I know that women in their early 30's can get it). The show was able to use breast cancer to spread awareness, get a character to grow, and not kill the season by getting too depressing. What a concept! Hmmmm...HBO should take over "The L Word" and somehow fix it. And the next big gay TV show should follow the rules Riese prescribed for a good gay show.
- I know it's none of my business, but I have this bad feeling that Katherine Moennig is straight. Why else would she keep her sexuality a secret? Someone who can pull off her look (aka The Sexy Queen of Androgyny) and cause ("It's Okay to Be Gay!") would disappoint her fans. The thought of her having sex with a man is so fucking gross and disturbing, especially since she could have her choice of several hot women from around the world. I hope she's at least bisexual. Or that this whole "stay in the closet" thing is a PR tactic or something.
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Words For the Oppressed
I happened to find an old, amusing conversation with my ex a while ago, and I meant to post it because the Kelkian and "L Word" references are obvious to the trained eye:
Him: it's like all of the words for homosexual
Him: and vagina
Me: hahahah
Him: no positive slang for either of those words
Me: you have a point
Me: i like saying "gaymo"
Him: gaymo?
Him: what the hell?
Him: it's funny
Me: lol
Him: where does it...come from?
Me: i dunno who i heard it from.
Me: hah you're so perplexed
Him: gaymo?
Me: haha
Him: it's like a thing and not a person
Him: like...gidget
Me: hahah
Him: or gizmo
Him: or a gremlin
Me: kind of sounds like an alien
Him: GAY-mo?
Me: lol
Him: or a pokemon
Him: eeeeew....
Me: blah
Me: i'm sure there's some positive slang for vagina tho
Him: really
Him: positive AND good to say?
Me: hmm
Me: punani
Me: uhh
Him: punani
Him: hahahahaahahahaha
Him: thank you Ali G
Him: for popularizing THAT nonsense
Him: it sounds like a japanese dessert
Me: hahah
Me: a dessert for some
Him: 'ohayo gozaimasu!
punani tabemasu ka?'
Him: so wrong
Me: calcunta
Him: calcunta?
Him: that sounds like 'indian dyke'
Me: hahah
Me: twat
Him: that's like a fruit
Him: a fruit that no one likes
Me: lol!
Me: all right fine, maybe you're right
Him: that's just how I feel
Me: yeah
Me: beaver?
Me: no
Him: it's this weird language thing...like english was created and defined by white hetero men
Me: true
Him: beaver? think about that one for a second
Me: i know i know
Him: hahahahaha
Him: although
Him: 'damn beaver's chewin' up all the poles it can find'
Me: haha!
Him: that's funny
Me: yes
Him: although, the image of matted, wet animal hair
Him: not so much
Me: tongue trap.
Him: ah ha ha !
Me: i'd say pussy is probably the best slang.
Him: I dunno
Him: toungue trap is the one in my book
Me: haha
Me: here's a bad one i heard:
Me: fu fu valve
Him: fu-fu HAHAAHHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAH
Him: who makes up these things?
Him: abused 7 year olds?
Me: hahaha
Him: pedophile plumbers?
Him: careful mary, I've got to check your fu fu valve
Him: for clogs
Me: lol!
Me: the gays also don't have good terms for when they're essentially married.
Me: "life partner" and "domestic partner" are a mouthful
Him: the gays!
Him: so great!
Him: yes
Him: and just partner is...
Him: vague
Me: yeah
Me: not on the same intimate level as husband and wife
Him: shoot
Him: when I think husband and wife
Him: you know what the next word I think of is?
Me: prison?
Him: ha!
Him: guess one more time
Me: hell, eww, gross?
Him: d-i-v-o-r-c-e
I personally think "pussy" suffices as slang for vagina. I have no idea what should replace "partner." But I applaud whoever does come up with a better word for it.
I would also like to point out that "The Big Lebowski" is responsible for my feeling comfortable saying "vagina." And I also think "beaverpicture" is a great name for a porno (unless its man-on-man porn of course). If you haven't seen "The Big Lebowski," or don't remember the scenes I'm referring to, then promptly go out and rent it!
Him: it's like all of the words for homosexual
Him: and vagina
Me: hahahah
Him: no positive slang for either of those words
Me: you have a point
Me: i like saying "gaymo"
Him: gaymo?
Him: what the hell?
Him: it's funny
Me: lol
Him: where does it...come from?
Me: i dunno who i heard it from.
Me: hah you're so perplexed
Him: gaymo?
Me: haha
Him: it's like a thing and not a person
Him: like...gidget
Me: hahah
Him: or gizmo
Him: or a gremlin
Me: kind of sounds like an alien
Him: GAY-mo?
Me: lol
Him: or a pokemon
Him: eeeeew....
Me: blah
Me: i'm sure there's some positive slang for vagina tho
Him: really
Him: positive AND good to say?
Me: hmm
Me: punani
Me: uhh
Him: punani
Him: hahahahaahahahaha
Him: thank you Ali G
Him: for popularizing THAT nonsense
Him: it sounds like a japanese dessert
Me: hahah
Me: a dessert for some
Him: 'ohayo gozaimasu!
punani tabemasu ka?'
Him: so wrong
Me: calcunta
Him: calcunta?
Him: that sounds like 'indian dyke'
Me: hahah
Me: twat
Him: that's like a fruit
Him: a fruit that no one likes
Me: lol!
Me: all right fine, maybe you're right
Him: that's just how I feel
Me: yeah
Me: beaver?
Me: no
Him: it's this weird language thing...like english was created and defined by white hetero men
Me: true
Him: beaver? think about that one for a second
Me: i know i know
Him: hahahahaha
Him: although
Him: 'damn beaver's chewin' up all the poles it can find'
Me: haha!
Him: that's funny
Me: yes
Him: although, the image of matted, wet animal hair
Him: not so much
Me: tongue trap.
Him: ah ha ha !
Me: i'd say pussy is probably the best slang.
Him: I dunno
Him: toungue trap is the one in my book
Me: haha
Me: here's a bad one i heard:
Me: fu fu valve
Him: fu-fu HAHAAHHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAH
Him: who makes up these things?
Him: abused 7 year olds?
Me: hahaha
Him: pedophile plumbers?
Him: careful mary, I've got to check your fu fu valve
Him: for clogs
Me: lol!
Me: the gays also don't have good terms for when they're essentially married.
Me: "life partner" and "domestic partner" are a mouthful
Him: the gays!
Him: so great!
Him: yes
Him: and just partner is...
Him: vague
Me: yeah
Me: not on the same intimate level as husband and wife
Him: shoot
Him: when I think husband and wife
Him: you know what the next word I think of is?
Me: prison?
Him: ha!
Him: guess one more time
Me: hell, eww, gross?
Him: d-i-v-o-r-c-e
I personally think "pussy" suffices as slang for vagina. I have no idea what should replace "partner." But I applaud whoever does come up with a better word for it.
I would also like to point out that "The Big Lebowski" is responsible for my feeling comfortable saying "vagina." And I also think "beaverpicture" is a great name for a porno (unless its man-on-man porn of course). If you haven't seen "The Big Lebowski," or don't remember the scenes I'm referring to, then promptly go out and rent it!
Monday, July 2, 2007
The "L" Letter
The Planet Podcast, Episode 409: Lacy Lilting Lyrics
Kelka are discussing the end of the episode when Alice and Shane vandalize the billboard of Shane modeling in "boys' panties." And then Elka brought up a hilariously defective billboard:
Elka: Do remember the one billboard on I-25 and it was for a hotel and it was like "Free cable..."
KC: Huh?
Elka:... [laughing] do you remember? It was like, "Free cable, color TV, and free heated poo"?
KC: [laughs] Oh, it was like an electronic one, and the "l" part didn't turn over.
Elka: The "l" was broken, and it was like, "Free heated poo."
If I saw the words "Free heated poo" on a billboard, I'd probably hurt myself from laughing so hard.
Kelka are discussing the end of the episode when Alice and Shane vandalize the billboard of Shane modeling in "boys' panties." And then Elka brought up a hilariously defective billboard:
Elka: Do remember the one billboard on I-25 and it was for a hotel and it was like "Free cable..."
KC: Huh?
Elka:... [laughing] do you remember? It was like, "Free cable, color TV, and free heated poo"?
KC: [laughs] Oh, it was like an electronic one, and the "l" part didn't turn over.
Elka: The "l" was broken, and it was like, "Free heated poo."
If I saw the words "Free heated poo" on a billboard, I'd probably hurt myself from laughing so hard.
Sunday, July 1, 2007
Nature vs. Nurture
According to a recent poll, more Americans are believing that homosexuality can't be changed or unlearned. And this percentage has been increasing from 36% to 56% from 1998 to 2007. Of the most recent poll, 42% believe homosexuality results from environment and 39% believe it's genetic.
For me, I'm happy if people think that it can't be changed. Because the notion that it can be changed carries the implication that it should be changed or that reproducing is the purpose of life (*shudder).
The nature vs. nurture issue inevitably comes up with queerness. Like most issues worth contemplating, it's complicated. My opinion hasn't fully formed yet, but here's what I think so far:
1) Everyone is different, and I think everyone develops and discovers themselves at their own pace. This is the result of both nature and nurture. Some people, (e.g. KC) knew they were gay since they were kids (and consequently managed to get other little girls to kiss her on the playground). Others might take longer to figure it out. And others might know it, but repress and/or suppress their desires. With some people, nature may play a more predominant role in their sexuality, and with others, nurture might. It all depends on a variety of unpredictable factors.
2) I fully believe in Kinsey's scale. A lot of people aren't 100% straight or 100% gay. For example, some mostly straight people can potentially fall in love with someone of the same sex, and some mostly gay people can potentially fall in love with someone of the opposite sex. They may not know it because their environment doesn't accept a deviation from the hetero norm, or they may just not have met someone who they'd be willing to join the other team for. There could be several other reasons.
I think a lot of people are, by way of nature, in a grey area, and by way of nurture, they end up being pushed (or pushing themselves) into a category (gay, straight, bi) that's easier to define (although bisexuality still isn't easy to define).
I guess my point is that to label variations in sexual orientation as either nature or nurture is to apply a one-sided mentality that also perpetuates the limiting, binary constructs that define gender and sexual orientation.
*De de de deee!* [Insert "The More You Know" Star Rainbow Here]
For me, I'm happy if people think that it can't be changed. Because the notion that it can be changed carries the implication that it should be changed or that reproducing is the purpose of life (*shudder).
The nature vs. nurture issue inevitably comes up with queerness. Like most issues worth contemplating, it's complicated. My opinion hasn't fully formed yet, but here's what I think so far:
1) Everyone is different, and I think everyone develops and discovers themselves at their own pace. This is the result of both nature and nurture. Some people, (e.g. KC) knew they were gay since they were kids (and consequently managed to get other little girls to kiss her on the playground). Others might take longer to figure it out. And others might know it, but repress and/or suppress their desires. With some people, nature may play a more predominant role in their sexuality, and with others, nurture might. It all depends on a variety of unpredictable factors.
2) I fully believe in Kinsey's scale. A lot of people aren't 100% straight or 100% gay. For example, some mostly straight people can potentially fall in love with someone of the same sex, and some mostly gay people can potentially fall in love with someone of the opposite sex. They may not know it because their environment doesn't accept a deviation from the hetero norm, or they may just not have met someone who they'd be willing to join the other team for. There could be several other reasons.
I think a lot of people are, by way of nature, in a grey area, and by way of nurture, they end up being pushed (or pushing themselves) into a category (gay, straight, bi) that's easier to define (although bisexuality still isn't easy to define).
I guess my point is that to label variations in sexual orientation as either nature or nurture is to apply a one-sided mentality that also perpetuates the limiting, binary constructs that define gender and sexual orientation.
*De de de deee!* [Insert "The More You Know" Star Rainbow Here]
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