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I heart my smart friends:

Me: you're right: i should just have fun w/ the boys
Me: i think that's what they're best for anyways
Friend: and you're right about boys
Friend: they're hopeless idiots
Friend: makes me wish i didn't like their genitals so much
Me: yeah. i know.
Friend: and actually their pheromones, i could do without cock and balls if a female could emit guy-sex-chemistry
Friend: i like maleness
Friend: the archetype of it
Friend: it's all so conditioned
Friend: i believe that femaleness is a more natural state, and males get more structured attention and are therefore more societally warped
Friend: i think if boys weren't so conditionally fucked over they'd be a lot more like girls
Me: possibly
Me: or maybe you're just with a very femmy man
Friend: maybe i've been thinking this way for a long time before i came to know the man you mention
Friend: which may be why i find him so delightful
Me: haha
Friend: it's why i find queerness very liberating. i'm not defined by liking cock or liking pussy but by liking the way human beings are
Friend: my bf is just queer as hell, though he doesn't identify as such but rather as a "kinky bi-curious guy in a heterosexual relationship", but i'm working on him to just say "queer" and i like to think he's coming around :-)
Me: hah, good
Me: for what it's worth i'd probably have had tons more relationships with girls if they'd just be queer and not so hung up on butch/femme/andro/wtfever archetypes
Friend: those get tiresome amazingly quickly
Me: i fucking HATE those
Friend: i never found them satisfying, i always thought, "look, i like makeup and baseball and nipple torture and beer and nipple torture and smacking the shit out of my lovers and" etc etc
Me: LOL
Me: i just want to be a person and be with a person who will let me be a person
Friend: i think it's a gross by-product of the cosmo-quiz sexual generation
Friend: "What Annoying Lesbian Archetype are YOU?!"
Friend: i just realized i put nipple torture twice, appropriately enough
Friend: can't have just one
Me: lol i thought you did that on purpose
Me: i can be a lot of different things depending on my mood
Friend: yeah, well, that's why identifying as queer is great
Friend: it basically says "i do not find straight, societally conditioned sexual practices or gender roles satisfying and the rest is none of your business"
Friend: "you may feel free to consider me however you like, but rest assured it's more like what you see on HBO than on FOX."
Me: haha yes
Friend: i mean, brenda is queer. brenda's parents are queer.
Me: that's partly my fear of being with a straight guy
Me: i can't be girly all the time
Friend: well, as i'm sure you know, there are queer guys who are still able to immerse themselves fully in a relationship with a female
Friend: good luck finding one, but they're out there
Friend: and regardless of labels there are het men who want nothing to do with "girly"
Me: yeah true
Friend: it's slow going but the stereotypical female is getting blurrier and blurrier